Stop Letting Others Define You
People judge! They will always try to define you and put you in a box basis their own assessment and perception of you (doesn’t matter what authenticity the perception holds!) You may be defined basis your race, gender, weight, the way you dress, your social status, your sexuality, your friends (Heck! Even on basis of what you eat!) It is hard to live your best lives, when “best” is defined by someone else! Constant nay-sayers, consistent cynics, ceaseless criticism – they have many names and wear a many masks!
“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.”
― Anonymous
Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Hey Everyone! I hope y’all are having a great day! It’s time for some Real Talk!
Each of us have our own “comfort zone” which, more than an actual place is an emotional-psychological safe haven involving our daily habits and routine. Being in our comfort zone implies protection and security, minimizing any risks and stress. It’s a warm, safe cocoon where we are happily existing, distant enough from any mishap or blunder. When we step outside of our comfort zone, we’re taking a risk and opening ourselves up to the possibility of stress and anxiety! (Well, who wants that now?) As humans, we are creatures of comfort and taking risks is a menace that we are not well equipped to handle. It is too much of an effort and labor, something that we usually shy away from!
“If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done.”
― Thomas Jefferson
How To Let Go
Past – bygone, prior, elapsed! So, why dwell on something that is no more? Are you hanging onto the past and finding it hard to let go?
“Blame doesn’t empower you. It keeps you stuck in a place you don’t want to be because you don’t want to make the temporary, but painful decision, to be responsible for the outcome of your own life’s happiness.” – Shannon L. Alder
Undoubtedly, letting go can be difficult! Specially, when it comes to people, expectations, love, desires, unhealthy relationships, faith, beliefs, thoughts – that you have invested your time, efforts and life into! It’s a continued list, which is stuck in your head like a broken record. It is painful and for sure taxing. The reason I know this and understand the progression, is because I held onto the past for a long time. No matter how hard I tried, letting go was the hardest thing for me to do. It didn’t matter if it was people, expectations, beliefs or disappointments, the past always seemed to have power over me. The more I tried, the more I relieved the past (and the pain!)